Rejected or Failed??

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Humans and their feelings are the most fascinating two things in this world! You can’t sum it up in a book. We tend to be different but we all are drastically similar in so many ways. Each one of us wants to be different or be like someone very successful. (I am not talking about that niche of people who has some otherworldly definition of being “successful” here. But the general opinion that is being insanely rich and popular. So rich that you can make a rocket out of all the dollars piling up in your house and take a jolly ride to space and back!)

Jokes apart; talking about feelings, I am always confused about mine. Also, the process of understanding and reasoning with it is a whole new level of melodrama that takes place in my head a thousand times a day. I see everyone reading this will get a feel of me being just a random teenager, but what if I tell you that I am a 79-year-old granny who loves to eat kimchi fried rice and fried chicken but can’t eat because of my all-time upset stomach. You have a different feeling now, don’t you?

That is what it is; the perspective and situation different people are in are different for everyone we cross paths with. One of the admired paintings in the world, “Girl with a Pearl Earring” has different ways one can see through. For starters, we don’t even know if that girl was wearing earring on the other ear or it was just one of her ears getting the privilege. When you see her, you probably can’t understand the feeling she was encountering that time, was she ready to smile for the iconic pose, or was getting ready to be kissed for the very first time. Also, there are substantial proofs that the painting was not even of a real girl, it was the artist’s imagination as she did not have a speck on her face, and the most interesting thing I found in it was the illusion the artist made by not painting her nose. Go zoom it out and see yourself. So, in conclusion, we all are different, the 0.01% difference in our DNAs, and the infinite differences in our lives make us all different.

One such thing is being rejected or failing. Yesterday I met someone on the bus on my way back home. He was crying his eyes out for being rejected by someone and completely neglecting the fact that he might have failed to meet the expectation. We all always want to play the victim card; it feels like a safe space for us to push all the baggage on someone else’s shoulder and feel light. When we say we got rejected, most of us don’t even bother to know “why?”. Finding answer to the why is very important, the course of action after that depends on how you perceive things, people and situation. All we do is whine over the fact that someone be it random (professional instances) or dear and near (personal instances), rejected us based on their preferences. It should be understandable that not fitting to someone else's criteria is not our job to be done in the very first place. The situation for everyone is different choose for yourself and don't let anyone else decide a thing about you. 

When we say that we failed, all that heavy baggage becomes a constant companion because some things you can’t change in you, some things you can’t learn. That’s being human. It’s okay.  As for me, I zone out whenever I am rejected or when I decide to accept it as my failure but luckily I have found some people who bear that with me, so go and find yourself some people you have 7 Billion options waiting.

Telling you to acknowledge your shortcomings and labeling it as failure is very much “idealistic” and so not me. I will go 50:50 in this. At times we need to throw the blame, or else the back pain will take away the happy retirement years ahead of us, right? At least that is what we plan for the ending weeks of glory. Yet it is always better to know why something happened, being aware is not bad, it gives us a wider view and understanding of our lives. So next time, choose wisely whether it let yourself be rejected, or failed!